Sansaku: Cordelia and the Fool
6/3/17
I look like any number of places. I definitely looked like Timberline Academy when I taught there, and came to resemble the counseling center at the college. I love our home on Crestview and these mornings in the studio behind the garage.
In dreams, I’m mostly on the edge. My inner city is very close to wilderness. I live in the boundary zone. Chyako dreams of looking down. On one side, the lush-green forests of Japan. On the other, the red-rock canyons of southeast Utah. Both remind me of her pottery.
Corder loved the courtroom, just as he loved the stage. He was artist and performer. The way law was practiced bothered his sense of aesthetics. In time, there was nothing very true, good, or beautiful about it. The more he succeeded the more he failed.
He found his niche at the Crystal Palace Saloon in Tombstone. This was the late sixties and he was the happy hour entertainment. The piano was up against the wall and he sat with his back to the crowd.
It wasn’t his piano playing or singing they remembered. It was him. He was the television character, the ad for Arizona, who stepped out of the box and into the room. He had eyes and ears in the back of his head and knew when to turn around. He was delightfully dangerous and unpredictable.
This was his court, not Lear’s, and he played the role of the Shakespearian fool, the witty clown who tells the truth. I can’t tell you how many times I turned to my step-mom and said, “Did he just say what I think he said.” He had.
He called himself an undisguised paradox, but he seemed more like a constant anomaly, a working contradiction. I paid close attention and knew he was trained as a musician and actor. He practiced and rehearsed. He might have played by ear, but he knew the tune.
He’d run away to escape all kinds of consequences, but mostly he just wanted to be free. He pleaded no contest. He didn’t exactly feel guilty, but he knew he had no case he could ever defend and hope to win. He’d lost his moral compass and it took some time to find his sense of direction.
I can fully understand how Irma drove him nuts. I needed to get away myself. How she could put up with George was beyond me. It didn’t help she was so damn nice. I felt petty by comparison.
Corder’s complex was not Oedipal in the classic presentation. It’s his mother he would have killed. He married his father in the form of Irma, who was kind and loving, like his father.
I happen to identify with both of my parents. Corder didn’t think he resembled either. Irma idealized her mother and said she was just like her. When she married George, she married her father.
I asked about Corder and she said, “We married for love.” She meant what she said and when I asked him, he said the same.
If Romeo and Juliet are high school lovers, Hamlet belongs in college. Macbeth is about career and Othello comes with marriage. Lear’s at the end of life and the tragedy of age. Enter the fool. He’s the one who tells the truth.
Lear has three daughters and two are false. The third, Cordelia, represents all that is true, beautiful and good. I feel as though I’m the child of Cordelia and the Fool.
I woke from a dream the other night with a phrase in mind, “A stitch in time.” It didn’t mean what it usually does when part two of the saying is added, “saves nine.” It wasn’t about making a repair before the problem grew nine-fold in time.
A stitch is one iteration or movement. The threaded needle makes a loop. It’s the least bit that’s complete and whole. Stitches add up and when enough panels are made, they can be stitched and pieced together. It’s what I’m doing with sansaku.
When I met Corder he was at the end of the project and taking his time to stitch it all together. He gave the cloth to me. My blessing. How could I not give him my complete forgiveness?
A lawyer, he had not made a will. No one was surprised. And he said, “I don’t care what you do with my body. Throw it in a ditch and let it be food.” He didn’t even give instructions for his beloved stamp collection. “Let the carrion feeders fight over it.”
I was given two of his possessions. Mary handed me his bolo tie, the one called Knifewing, I’d known it all my life. There was nothing I would have rather had. And she gave me the sapphire ring he wore on his right hand. She knew us both.
His “not caring” was closer to the Buddhist idea of detachment. It wasn’t cold and Trumpian. I knew he cared, but not like that. I got the best of him, his blessing. The blessing was knowing we had given each other our approval.